I feel it, I feel ya De Pep. One thing that will help you out is to mix on
mid-range single driver speakers like the venerable Auratones or modern iterations such as Avantones. They help you focus in on the mid-range only, and that's
where the money is
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Start on the
"big" speakers at a good volume, like 80~85dBSPL (
slow response
C-weighted) and get the tone and vibe right for all the pieces. You can set up basic effects as inspiration hits you, do some tonal shaping with saturation, distortion and some basic tonal shaping here, but move fast and musically. Then drop down to the
"Auratones" at low levels, like ~70dBSPL (one speaker in mono if you can) and do fader balances, get the mix to where you hear the
three most important elements of each section of the track clearly and the message/vibe of the song is being transmitted. Then start panning stuff to make space (still in mono if you can) before you EQ. Once you start panning you will have to re-balance fader levels as panning shifts the energy/attention (also subjected to
pan law). You can now flip to stereo and continue panning and create some stereo excitement.
Before you even think of reaching for an EQ (unless you hear wild resonances) turn on the automation on your DAW and play around with moving the pieces around, organically, as the musical story unfolds. It is remarkable what you can do with panning and subtle (or not) volume automation to help the pieces not only fit together, but gel and groove together musically (of course this all depends on the arrangement of the song). I should say that at some time before this point you should have
High Passed all tracks/instruments of extraneous low frequencies. This should be a pretty good "rough" mix at this point, more like 80~85% of a well arranged and performed track!
You can
now do some EQ ... to further glue the separate pieces musically together, fix issues that levels and panning couldn't, or to add excitement. You can also consider some compression at this point too, to help things pop out, not get buried, add excitement or to create dynamics and contrasts (remember,
if everything is loud, nothing is loud). You can also start to add, or tweak, effects like reverb and delay to create contrast, depth and excitement.
And finish off with the first rule of automation... well, the second rule of automation... where the first rule is:
do automation and the second rule of automation is;
once you are finished automating, do some more
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